Your wedding ceremony will say a lot about your personalities, your families, your ethical views, and your relationship, and is the opportunity to create a personal and heartfelt experience for you, for both of your families and your wedding guests. If it’s personal for you then it’s personal for me.
Couples who choose a Humanist Celebrant for their wedding often do so to make their wedding ceremony more reflective of who they are and how they want their union to be. A Humanist Wedding Celebrant officiating at their wedding, can lead a vastly different role than what we are used to with clergy and registrars.
is an important life event and as such, for your legally binding
ceremony, I will take the time to encourage
and support your ideas and together we can make your dream wedding
ceremony a reality.
Your day will be memorable and fun, relaxed yet solemn and beautiful. I will do my best to give you as many alternatives as possible in order to inspire you.
You may or may not want ‘your story’ in your ceremony, well that’s OK too. Either way, we will work together to make sure that the heart of your ceremony really reflects you and your partner’s personalities and while we do, we will have fun as we create your special day.
I see it as an honour if you choose me to be part of your Wedding day. Together we can create your special day just as you imagined it, as I take care of all the stress, the legals and paperwork. So, let us create a ceremony so special and so personal and meaningful that you, your family and friends will be talking about it for years to come.
Symbolic gestures have become increasingly popular in weddings (and indeed in naming ceremonies) in recent years. The great thing about rituals is that they allow couples to incorporate traditions into their special ceremony which have a special significance to them.
Your wedding should be a reflection of who you are and how you see yourselves as a couple. There is such a diversity of symbolic gestures; it isn’t practicable to cover them all, but here are a few which I find are very popular but if you have a different idea in mind, I would be delighted discuss it with you.
Handfasting is an ancient Celtic Tradition that dates back over 2000 years. It was originally used to symbolise a betrothal. The engagement would last a year and a day and at the end of that term the couple would decide to marry or go their separate ways. During the ceremony, the hands or wrists are lightly tied together using ribbons or cords and that is where the expression “tying the knot” comes from.
Usually ribbon or cord is used but some couples choose to use fabric or lace which has some special meaning to them. (Perhaps they might be the colours of their respective counties). Their hands are loosely bound by the ribbons and once the binding has been completed, the couple then keep the knotted fabric as a symbol or their commitment and their wedding day. There are lovely passages of prose that can accompany handfasting, and I can guide you through this.
Lighting candles is a lovely symbolic gesture to include in your ceremony, The unity candle symbolises the joining together of two families and their love for the couple, into one united family. Three candles are placed, one main candle and two smaller ones on either side. It is very popular for the mothers or parents of the couple to each light one of the smaller candles representing each family and later in the ceremony, the couple will each take a light from their family’s candle and light the main unity candle together.
The beauty and significance of the two flames coming together is quite special. You can choose to recite some words during this ritual, or I can do this for you. This ritual makes a lovely opportunity for photograph. (Some couples use their unity candle in the future as the naming candle for their first child or indeed for all their children).
Unity Sand Ceremony is a variation on the Unity Candle Ceremony. It
is a tradition full of symbolism and projects a powerful message.
In this ritual, your marriage is symbolised by the pouring together two individual containers of sand into a unity sand container, representing each of you and all that you were in your past individual lives.
each pour a coloured sand from a smaller vessel into one larger
vessel. As these containers of sand are poured into the third
container, the grains of sand intertwine and can never again be
It symbolises the joining together of you both into one family through your marriage. This is a particularly lovely ritual to include in your ceremony for blended families with children. The vessel full of sand makes a beautiful keepsake to have in your family home.
A part of the tradition of Celtic hospitality was that of welcoming guests with a drink from a quaich. Sharing a cup was also seen as a sign of trust between the people drinking from it and also the sharing of the drink was a guarantee that it hadn’t been poisoned!
There are a number of ways that the quaich can be incorporated into your ceremony:
Drinking from the same cup is a lovely symbol of the love and trust between the couple. Because it is traditionally ‘the cup of welcome’, drinking from it can also be seen as a way of welcoming the bride and groom into each other’s family too. The quaich can be engraved and be permanently displayed as a treasured reminder of your great day.
is a beautiful ritual. During the ceremony, your wedding rings are
passed around your chosen guests and ‘warmed’ with their love,
good wishes and positive energy.
The rings, having made their way around your guests, are returned to the Best Man in time for the ring exchange.
is a great way to involve all present in your wedding ceremony.
To you, your rings will symbolise something immensely powerful and very precious; the love and wishes from those whom you love.
you and your fiancé love wine then this may be the perfect ceremony
enhancement for you! During this ceremony, a box, containing a bottle
of wine, is used as a memory box. (The box can have a special
inscription commemorating the day).
Both of you will have written a love letter to each other and during the ceremony, you place them in the box which is then closed. By so doing, you are celebrating your love for one another on your wedding day and then again on an anniversary (e.g. the third or fifth) in the future.
that day, you would open the box and share the bottle of wine
together as you read each others letters. Just make sure you pick a
bottle of wine that will stand the test of time!
Some couples re-fill the box with a new bottle, write some new letters and put it all back together (with your original letters) and do it all again and again during their future years of marriage. Having a time capsule ceremony on your wedding day creates something meaningful which you personally use and add to during your married years and it is such a loving and unique way of capturing your love story.
You are only limited by your imagination.