Humanist Weddings

by Patrick Cas​sidy

Your Wedding - Your Way

Your wedding ceremony will say a lot about your personalities, your families, your ethical views, and your relationship, and is the opportunity to create a personal and heartfelt experience for you, for both of your families and your wedding guests. If it’s personal for you then it’s personal for me.

Couples who choose a Humanist Celebrant for their wedding often do so to make their wedding ceremony more reflective of who they are and how they want their union to be. A Humanist Wedding Celebrant officiating at their wedding, can lead a vastly different role than what we are used to with clergy and registrars.

Planning the Perfect Wedding

Wedding planning is an important life event and as such, for your legally binding Humanist wedding ceremony, I will take the time to encourage and support your ideas and together we can make your dream wedding ceremony a reality.

Your day will be memorable and fun, relaxed yet solemn and beautiful. I will do my best to give you as many alternatives as possible in order to inspire you.

You may or may not want ‘your story’ in your ceremony, well that’s OK too. Either way, we will work together to make sure that the heart of your ceremony really reflects you and your partner’s personalities and while we do, we will have fun as we create your special day.

I see it as an honour if you choose me to be part of your Wedding day. Together we can create your special day just as you imagined it, as I take care of all the stress, the legals and paperwork. So, let us create a ceremony so special and so personal and meaningful that you, your family and friends will be talking about it for years to come.


Handfasting is an ancient Celtic Tradition that dates back over 2000 years. It was originally used to symbolise a betrothal. The engagement would last a year and a day and at the end of that term the couple would decide to marry or go their separate ways. During the ceremony, the hands or wrists are lightly tied together using ribbons or cords and that is where the expression “tying the knot” comes from.

Usually ribbon or cord is used but some couples choose to use fabric or lace which has some special meaning to them. (Perhaps they might be the colours of their respective counties). Their hands are loosely bound by the ribbons and once the binding has been completed, the couple then keep the knotted fabric as a symbol or their commitment and their wedding day. There are lovely passages of prose that can accompany handfasting, and I can guide you through this.

Unity Candle

Lighting candles is a lovely symbolic gesture to include in your ceremony, The unity candle symbolises the joining together of two families and their love for the couple, into one united family. Three candles are placed, one main candle and two smaller ones on either side. It is very popular for the mothers or parents of the couple to each light one of the smaller candles representing each family and later in the ceremony, the couple will each take a light from their family’s candle and light the main unity candle together.

The beauty and significance of the two flames coming together is quite special. You can choose to recite some words during this ritual, or I can do this for you. This ritual makes a lovely opportunity for photograph. (Some couples use their unity candle in the future as the naming candle for their first child or indeed for all their children).

You are only limited by your imagination.

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